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Morgana Post number 24342 Posted: 31st March 2018     Subject: Being Friends Outside of Circle: Perfect Love, Perfect Trust
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Being Friends Outside of Circle: Perfect Love, Perfect Trust, and Power
MARCH 26, 2018 BY THORN MOONEY


My friend and fellow covenleader, Jason Mankey, wrote a blog recently about some of the signs that indicate that a coven is healthy. Itís a good article, and I was happy to be able to check off almost all of the items he includes. One, however, really struck me:

Perfect Love and Trust Means Away from the Circle too! You donít have to hang out with the coven all the time, but if you arenít friends with your fellow Witches outside of circle something is probably wrong.

Jason includes this tidbit in a section about general members of a coven, not necessarily its leaders, and a lot of the time I think heís right. I want to nuance this a bit though, veer off a ways, and add the leadership bit back in. This is something I personally struggle with, and I had a conversation last week that directly came out of reading Jasonís post.

The Covenleader and Their Initiates

I love my covenmates. I need to lead with that. I also love the people in my parent coven, even though I havenít talked to some of then in ages. I agree that love and trust should be the cornerstones of coven work, 100%.

But love doesnít inherently have anything to do with friendship.

The thing about being in any kind of hierarchical organization is that thereís a power differential. When thereís a power differential, friendship can be a real problem.

Hereís an example of what Iím talking about:

Iím a high school teacher. Before that, I lectured at a university and tutored elementary-aged children in literacy. Iíve had several students who have made the mistake of thinking that weíre friends. Hey, I made the same mistake as a precocious teenager and university student, too. When you seem to have more in common with your teachers and you have a rapport, itís easy to feel like youíre friends. It feels good to have special attention and to feel like you have supportive mentors in your life. You trust them. But any experienced teacher can tell you how incredibly dangerous a position this is for both the teacher and the student.

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Isobel Post number 24364 Posted: 4th April 2018     Subject: Re: Being Friends Outside of Circle: Perfect Love, Perfect Trust
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Very interesting.
Thank you Morgana for the post and the comments.

Blessings,

Isobel

PFI National Co-ordinators for Portugal
Isobel Andrade & Jose Ferreira
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